Men's Domain note: This article is by Jaxon De La Rue.

Unfortunately though guys, the porn world portrayal of lesbians and also for the most part, our own view of lesbians is totally different to the real world. However, there is so much we can learn from lesbians in order to improve our own performance!

So then, believe it or not, innocent pillow fighting or hair braiding that then just naturally leads to hardcore girl on girl 69'ing followed by rough strap on work just doesn't really happen that much in the real world - pretty much never actually! If that is your idea of lesbian sex then sorry to say but you are way off! The great thing however is that by learning about the true lesbian experience and then adapting it to your own love making, your own sexual performance and ultimately you and your partner's sexual satisfaction will explode to heights never before reached!

Most men would be absolutely devastated to learn that the majority of women think us males are actually quite boring in the sack! Most lesbians, in relationships especially, report a significantly higher level of sexual satisfaction than heterosexual females. This is largely because women have much different needs in bed and during sex than males which is why lesbians are so fulfilled and satisfied. They know what they want and how to go about it!

Men can sometimes treat sex as a job or a means to an end and it can seem quite the planned event. For example, get her wet and ready, get inside her, thrust furiously til you get your rocks off and then roll over and nod off to sleep!

Women want, and lesbians bring, a whole other experience to the bedroom. Kissing, touching, sucking, caressing and massaging are all things that women absolutely love. They drive them wild and over the edge. Have you been spending time in these areas or have you been ignoring them?

Because men sometimes have a sequence of events in mind that always leads to the end goal of the man blowing his load, the magical ingredient of successful sex and lovemaking is missing, forgotten about or simply ignored. And that ingredient is in maximising the pleasure of both parties - or put more bluntly, her enjoyment and pleasure! So while men just want to get to their climax, the experience is so far different for women.

When two lesbians have sex or make love, they are not selfishly just thinking of how it will end for themselves and they are also not thinking about a common goal of a thundering orgasm and then that is that! For women as we should all know by now, an orgasm is not the end of the act. Also, every look, touch and sensation between orgasms is all part of the overall experience. They savor the softness of skin, the warmth of her partner's body, the smell of their breath and body and importantly how her partner reacts and responds to each touch and caress. It's primarily about two people coming together for mutual pleasure and shared intimacy.

Great I hear you say! So lesbians have it all; an inner knowledge and understanding of exactly what a women wants and how to give it to her. Well yes that's true but the great news for you and indeed all men out there is that this stuff works for us with our heterosexual partners as well! You do not need to have a vagina to sensually and emotionally make love to your partner! Women want intimacy, women want foreplay and most of all, women want to be pleasured and involved in the whole process of lovemaking and sex and not just a mere tool that helps you get your rocks off! Don't worry boys, it is not all roses and massages, your girl will undoubtedly have times when all she wants is a good quick bonk, rough and ready! All I am trying to get across to you here is that for the most part, if you want to receive great sex on a regular basis then you certainly must play your part in delivering great sex!

                         

I have found that the more I work on pleasuring women first and without worrying about my own needs; everything is paid back to me with interest! After men have an orgasm, all we want to do is go to sleep! Give your woman orgasms and she will normally keep going, often at an even heightened state of arousal and enjoyment. Once you get your partner to this level you will find they are more than happy to give you pretty much whatever you want!

The key message here is to remember that women absolutely savor the pleasure they give you. Although there are a few out there, most women do not actually like going down on us men as something they specifically enjoy. They do it and then like it because of the pleasure it gives them as a result of pleasuring you!

Making love in such an unselfish way ignites and satisfies all of our senses and is pretty much the main reason why lesbians do it better than us! Don't miss out on the pleasure you too can give as well as gain. Learn what you can from lesbians then go back and put it into practice at home. I guarantee your partner will absolutely appreciate it!